For men to grasp that sex does not need to have someone in the 'power' role. So many times I get asked if I am dominant or submissive. Why do we need to be either? Why can sexuality not be fluid, malleable, a journey? Why the obsession with boxes to put everyone in? I get the same thing when men see my strap on, their automatic response is that I own it t dominate men, or to fuck women. Why can I not own this purely because I am kinky? Many when I mention that I am not inclined to dominant, the idea is usually dropped. Is it scary to just enjoy kink? Do you need a label to allow yourself to be sexually liberated? Does your sexuality need justification????