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August 2, 2015

The hard questions

Recently I started seeing someone (kind of... It's complicated) and I learnt that there is a reason I've been single for the past 10 years. I am terrible at the whole feeling thing. Anyway that is not what I'm going to write about. I want to explore when is the right time to disclose things about yourself, specifically things of a sexual nature. 

I am obviously a lot more open sexually than a lot of people and I write about my sexuality and sex life for all of the Internet to see. So the first hurdle I faced was when to tell this man about my blog. I figured the blog would give a good gauge on how he would react to other subject to be faced. I explore most of my sex life openly on this blog so I thought that perhaps it would open the door naturally to these conversations. Those being that A) from time to time I get paid for sex and B) I do not want a monogamous relationship. The second of those subjects is the one that people would most likely be having with anew parter. Unless you're all secretly sex workers.

It's difficult subject to have, open relations ships come in so many different varieties and you need to have a decent understand of what it is that you want. There is also the timing issue. I am always one to want to get things out on the table early. I don't want to fall madly in love, to then find out a year down the track he person I'm wit does not want the same things as me. Then we have the whole does the openness begin from the get go or are you committed only to each other for a certain amount of time to allow for the relationship to strengthen. So many questions. This is all without taking into consideration the then negotiations that need to take place so that the arrangement works for both people. 

I'm putting my attempts at love on hold for the time being because at this point in time it all just seems like all to much!


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I would take romance over sex any day. Deep down under all the lust and thrust I am a hopeless romantic. I don't need grand gestures. I am not the kind of woman who needs jewels and roses to woo her. I'd much rather a little note left for me to find or a flower from the garden. I want someone who whispers beautiful words I my ear when they think I'm asleep and who will listen to me cry after a hard day. Those things are romantic to me. Those things are what make my heart flutter. Don't tell me I'm beautiful while you're inside me, tell me when I'm in my pjs eating ice cream out of the tub. 

Any man can make a woman feel sexy, I just want one who makes me feel irreplaceable.